HE said to forgive 7 times 70, easy for Him to say. How do I get to a place where I forgive those who disrespect me and malign me. Those who could care less about my feelings, yet I still care about theirs.
Why is forgiveness so hard? Why does it take so much out of you? Why is it easier to hold on to a grudge , rather than to let it go? Am I doing something wrong?
If it is true that we are to love others as we love ourselves, and we stay mad at ourselves for our misdeeds and misdoing, is it realistic to easily forgive someone?
If you extend the olive branch of friendship and kindness and forgiveness and it is not returned, should you keep trying even if you feel it is a lost cause?
Or will persistence win the day? Will the honesty and sincerity of words be recognized and acknowledged, followed by a reasonable attempt to let bygones be bygones?
Is this one of the famous battles between head and heart with both having opposing views, but the same hold on your psyche, neither winning, neither losing?
Sometimes I wonder if our lack of ability to forgive is truly more rooted in our bruised ego and hurt feelings. Perhaps the pain we feel is comforting.
If I were to release my anger and my pain only to be knocked again, who becomes the bigger fool, me for trying or them for doing?
I wish that such matters were as easy as a game of tic-tac-toe, or perhaps it is. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Neither happens if you don't take a chance.
So I resolve to forgive, to be the bigger and better person; give of myself as I would want others to give to me, and perhaps this time everyone will win.
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Why is forgiveness so hard? Why does it take so much out of you? Why is it easier to hold on to a grudge , rather than to let it go? Am I doing something wrong?
If it is true that we are to love others as we love ourselves, and we stay mad at ourselves for our misdeeds and misdoing, is it realistic to easily forgive someone?
If you extend the olive branch of friendship and kindness and forgiveness and it is not returned, should you keep trying even if you feel it is a lost cause?
Or will persistence win the day? Will the honesty and sincerity of words be recognized and acknowledged, followed by a reasonable attempt to let bygones be bygones?
Is this one of the famous battles between head and heart with both having opposing views, but the same hold on your psyche, neither winning, neither losing?
Sometimes I wonder if our lack of ability to forgive is truly more rooted in our bruised ego and hurt feelings. Perhaps the pain we feel is comforting.
If I were to release my anger and my pain only to be knocked again, who becomes the bigger fool, me for trying or them for doing?
I wish that such matters were as easy as a game of tic-tac-toe, or perhaps it is. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Neither happens if you don't take a chance.
So I resolve to forgive, to be the bigger and better person; give of myself as I would want others to give to me, and perhaps this time everyone will win.
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